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I remember climbing up in a tree one day as a little girl and hiding. I wanted to see if my family would notice that I was gone. I wanted to see them come looking for me. I didn’t have the maturity to realize at that moment that I was looking to have my place in my family, and their love for me, validated. I needed to know I was wanted. → ...

It’s the Heits famiversary this week! It was eight years ago that we met our two youngest daughters in Ethiopia. God has been faithful even though those beginning days were hard.     Here’s our 22 year old daughter’s recollections of our early experience. → ...

We have adopted 2 children and biologically had 3 children.  One of our adoptions was a domestic closed adoption and one was a very open domestic adoption.  We tried to do an international adoption but that was not God’s plan.  We have honored our 2 birth moms in thought, deed and prayer and are so grateful that they were willing to allow their children to come be a part of our family…..   Presently, I am involved with 2 different women who...

I am not sure how to write this post. I want to be raw and real. I want to share honestly. And yet there is part of me that wants to hold back. I don’t want to scare people away from the gift of adoption. I realize that all that I am feeling and all that I have experienced can not be put into a blog. So here I am, it is my day to blog for Katelyn’s fund and...

So the other day I was roaming Facebook (who me??  wasting time on Facebook?  Nah, couldn’t be).  A friend posted an article called 16 Things You Learn As An Adoptive Parent.    Now, I don’t agree with everything in the article, so if you follow this link don’t assume that I do, or that Katelyn’s Fund does (how’s that for a disclaimer?).   But some things were just right on!  I hope if you read it and have gone through process you...

It’s a well known fact that I (and my husband!) can talk adoption all day long, but what do our bio kids have to say about it?  You might be able to tell how much they love their siblings by the way they care for them, play with them and communicate with them.  But when one of them told me his Comp I instructor allowed him to choose a topic for his paper, and wrote about adoption, it touched my...

Most of you have seen the internet meme “Someone was Wrong on the Internet”  and I am guessing that many of you can relate.   Parenting transracially has changed my perspective on many things. In the past, I might note casual racism in my environment, but I wouldn’t say anything for fear of losing friends, alienating people, or just causing a ruckus. I am not a person who is drawn to conflict and I really don’t like confrontation at all.   Last...

Last time I blogged I reflected on diversity and what it looks like for me to become more proficient in this area especially as it has relates to my growing trans-racial family.  After attending the Lenses Institute last week I have even more thoughts on how I can grow to be more aware of cultures different from mine (and this is not just racial different, but different in class, worldview, generations, etc.) I was challenge to embrace the Gospel more fully,...