It’s a well known fact that I (and my husband!) can talk adoption all day long, but what do our bio kids have to say about it? You might be able to tell how much they love their siblings by the way they care for them, play with them and communicate with them. But when one of them told me his Comp I instructor allowed him to choose a topic for his paper, and wrote about adoption, it touched my heart.
This is significant to me on so many levels. When we started adopting 11 years ago, and had three biological children, ages 6, 7 and 14, one criticism we got was, “You’ll ruin your family. You won’t be able to pay for your kids’ college or buy them a car.”
We’ve got one college graduate, one college freshman and another entering college next year. All three have vehicles, and… you guessed it, we didn’t buy those either. They did.
Nine adoptions later and we still hear similar arguments. What it boils down to, for us, is… what are we living our lives for? Who are we living for?
Adoption isn’t for everyone. Adopting doesn’t make one family any holier than another. It certainly isn’t a way to get into heaven. For Clayton and I, it is a way of living out Christ’s love for us by loving others. When He redeemed us 13 years ago we surrendered everything to Him. Willingly. joyfully, completely. It’s not always easy, and we constantly have an inner battle with our selfish flesh. But every aspect of adoption, from the paper work, the thorough home studies, the waiting, the faith for provision and the transition has built character in us and our children.
Here is Kolton’s Comp I paper. As an English student, I will tell you it has a few grammatical errors, and he changed some of the facts ~ (you know, names have been changed to protect the innocent:). But evidently the content and subject superseded the flaws because he got a 100!
So, maybe my kids are ruined. And that’s not a bad thing!