As quite the introvert, writing a post as personal as this in a public arena completely throws me outside of my comfort zone…but our prayer through our entire adoption process has been that the Lord would use our family to his glory and others’ good. The last couple of months have intensified our desire for families to know more about international adoption. Our eyes have certainly been opened, and we believe that Christian couples must pursue excellence in partaking and supporting adoption practices and organizations that practical the highest standards of ethicality. Unfortunately, because of the broken nature of our world and especially international adoption, that is often not the case. For the safeguarding of adoptive familes, for the integrity of vulnerable families, and most importantly for the protection of orphaned and vulnerable children, we MUST insist on nothing less.
Let me give a little background for our story…We began the process to adopt from DRC in August 2011 as part of a pilot program with a Hague-accredited agency. Two years later (to the day!) we were matched with beautiful identical twin boys. Throughout the past year, we have pushed to see forward movement in our case (in spite of unimaginably long and inexplicable delays) and fought alongside hundreds of other American families seeking to bring home their children from DRC in light of the adoption suspension there.
In early August, we learned that the twins’ birthfather, who we understood to be previously unknown, had returned to the city where they live to reunite with his family. Their birthmother, who (we recently learned) had been employed at the orphanage nearly the whole time the boys were there, took them home. We now know they have been living with their family since May, in spite of the months care, falsified reports, and (outdated misleading) photos we received through June and July. The “trust” our agency insisted we have in our in-country partners and in their own program crumbled in a matter of weeks as the very program itself finds itself on extremely shaky grounds.