Telling the Truth To Your Adopted or Foster Child – Making Sense of the Past by Betsy Keefer and Jayne E Schooler was recommended by my children’s social worker. Almost all adopted children have difficult things in their pasts. Loving parents naturally want to shield children from painful discussions and they may unintentionally make things worse. Secrecy and withholding the truth can lead children to imagine a far worse scenario and/or feel shame about their past. Adult adoptees and older adopted children have contributed much for adoptive parents to ponder. Keefer and Schooler offer concrete suggestions along with true stories to guide parents through the amazing and complex journey of raising an adopted child.
Psalms 139:13-16 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.